Visit our other relationship site at www.keepingmymarriage.com for more information.  There are so many lies we as people believe today.  For the most part its not our fault.  Most of us have been trained from childhood through either direct observation or instruction to believe lies.  Those lies when processed will cause a negative reaction, feeling or outburst. 

For example one of the most over used misguided socially accepted lie is the "Control Lie." Do you claim to be a victim of circumstances? How about pressured by controlling people?  Do you feel helpless?  You first have to tell yourself the truth and believe it! What is the truth? You are not helpless you have the greatest help anyone could as for in life. Know what the Bible says about your situation. Read Philippians 4:12-13.  Remember "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me." Phil 4:13. 

Romans 8 tells us to become an overcomer in life.  So replace the control lie with this truth.  "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28

Remember NO ONE CONTROLS PEOPLE ONLY PEOPLE WHO LET THEMSELVES GET CONTROLLED.

Anyone with a dependent personality falls in this category.  Consider the person who always wants to make their own decisions but is constantly given set boundaries, others making decisions for them, others meeting there needs, others providing for them.  They will always cry, kick and scream complaining  causing fights and arguments with family and spouse but in the end they allow themselves to still give away control in their lives. 
Also someone who is always looking for attention by claiming to be the victim of a bad relationship.

How do you fix these relationship issues? Well you can't unless you fix the person first. Relationship second.  If you get your wish to get out of that relationship. If you never deal with YOU through exposing the lies you believe.  Then in six months you will be in another marriage or relationship under the same yoke.  It may not start off bad but it will always have the potential at anytime to be a disaster again.  Why six months? Cause you will have to take care of yourself (also children if applicable) for the first time by yourself.  NO ONE carrying your every need. NO ONE giving your boundaries or making decisions for you.  You need to be healed with the truth and become dependent on the Lord to be your provider by faith. God will bring provision but we need to heal your heart and mind from years of hurt.

If this sounds like you or if your relationship needs help let me help you with Gods direction.  Plan to attend one of our Relationship Events in your area.  We also conduct Relationship Webinars througout the year.